DATING ADVICE
11.11 — A Message for Single Women and Single Men on Singles’ Day
How both men and women can bridge the rift between them by stepping into their power and focusing on what they can do
If there’s anything I’d like for you to take away from this read, it is this. Focus on what you can do. There’s a reason why modern dating has failed both men and women. Our modern ways of life in the city go against our biology. It’s time to consider going app-free, sex-free, porn-free and give up addictive behaviors that are keeping you stuck and single.
By choosing to focus on what you can do and by doing that, you become the bridge builder and close the rift between men and women.
Singles’ day was originally called bachelors’ day. It’s an unofficial Chinese holiday that has turned into a shopping season that celebrates people who are not in a relationship. Good for them. Not good for you. Let me explain.
Back when I was lonely, even when I was in a relationship, I used to be a shopaholic. Toxic friendships and undeserving and unfulfilling relationships made me feel lonelier than when I was single. I filled that hole with pretty things to make me happy momentarily. That happiness didn’t last.
