Lata Kokal (formerly Neha Sonney)
Lata Kokal (formerly Neha Sonney)

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I write about self-love, understanding narcissistic abuse, self-awareness, navigating the world as a highly sensitive person, as well as life-changing, headache and heartache preventing advice on dating and relationships that even famous sexy dating gurus find hard to shell out. I'd love your support - ❤️☕🙏

Everything I do, I do it because I believe the world will be a better place to live in when we have better relationships with ourselves. When we have improved our relationship with ourselves, we feel better about ourselves and the world around us.

And so we give and become safer people through self-love. I happened to write a book about my own journey of learning to love myself and how becoming a mother transformed me, my life and my relationship with my son.

If you're curious to learn how you can improve your relationship with yourself and your loved ones, please find my book WIRED FOR SELF-LOVE here.

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Hi! I'm Neha Sonney (first name pronounced as Nay ha; surname like the TV brand Sony)



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What do you do when schools and universities don't prepare you to solve life's problems? Do you feel trapped and stuck in toxic environments?

Most problems in life boil down to lack of communication and perception differences. Relationships make our life.

This is where I come in. My job is to help you deal with the elephants in the room. I've dealt with mine and continue to talk about them instead of sweeping them under the rug.

I was in a miserable arranged marriage, wanting out. I was empty of love. Having a narcissist as my parent caused me to question myself worth, my decisions, stifle my growth and uproot my confidence. My relationship with myself sucked.

Meditation and books came to my rescue. So that I could stop the damage at me, and learn to nurture myself and my child's spirit. I learned a lot about myself as I filled this void with things that mattered to me. I have shared my journey in my book. The smile that you see on my face is one that I want to share with every human that needs it. The smile that comes from believing in yourself, healing and becoming the epitome of love, kindness, mercy and grace.



I'm the author of WIRED FOR SELF-LOVE. Self-love is the foundation of everything I do and teach. I write extensively about my mess-ups, life lessons, dating, manifestations and beauty of soulmate relationships. I also write poems.

Sometimes my words will hit a nerve, but I write with one intention - to invite you to increase awareness, inspire and heal yourself.

Lots of life experiences make me the woman I am today. From being forced into an arranged marriage to becoming a mother, to losing love, healing childhood trauma, each one has taught me things about life, love and to understand how to heal my relationship with myself before I can have one with others.

That's why I write about self-awareness, meditation, personal development, self-love, love, dating, relationships and emotional wellbeing - the things you don't learn in school and parents aren't trained to address.

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Snail 🐌 Mail 📧 Services I want to bring back the value of everything old school that added value to our lives before the internet took over. If you love receiving snail 🐌 mail 📧, and if I can solve a problem for you, shoot me an email with your 🔥 burning question 🔥 and mailing address. This personalized service costs approximately US$127.

Write to me at optimysticoachk@gmail.com. I love sending hand written notes. Please be as specific and ask one question. Thank you! I look forward to writing to you!

Online/In-person Coaching Services Whether you're single or married, you will have relationship problems. It gives me great pleasure to help you improve your relationship to yourself as well as with your partner/child. I'm based in Hong Kong, and I'm will to work with you at a time that works out for both of us. Reach out to me at with your queries at optimysticoachk@gmail.com, and I'd be more than happy to see how I can be of help. Your commitment to resolving the problem will play the most important role in putting that smile back on your face. I look forward to being a part of your journey.

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Lata Kokal (formerly Neha Sonney)

Lata Kokal (formerly Neha Sonney)

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Heals narcissistic abuse, tries not to worry much & defuses emotional time bombs for fun | Free resources: NehaSonney.Gumroad.com | IG & YT @latakokalofficial